Almost every marriage starts out as a huge celebration. Together with their family and friends, each couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is not a given. It must be made.

NEW 2011 Message

Matthew Plewes 先生

結婚は、大きな祝典として始められます。家族、友達、そして神様の前で誓約を交わし、大きな
喜びと希望でみたされます。でも、真の意味で幸せな結婚は、他から与えられるものでも、また偶然にそうなるものでもありません。本当に幸いな結婚は、お互いの努力によって築き上げてゆくものです。過去の過ちをとがめることなく、許しあうことが大切です。相手に完全を求める
のではなく、お互いが共通の価値観と目的をめざして共に成長していくなら、本当にすてきなことです。
ずっと仲良く、お互いを大切にし合いながら、お二人で手を取り合って、どんなことにも「ありがとう」と言って感謝の気持ちを伝えてください。
これからお二人は、神様からいただいた愛によって支えあい、平和と喜びの内に、幸せな結婚生活を送ってください。

Almost every marriage starts out as a huge celebration. Together with their family and friends, each couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is not a given. It must be made. Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. Neglect the whole world, rather than each other.
In marriage the little things are the big things.

It is to never bring up mistakes of the past
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is letting love guide you,
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner

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Ten Biblical Rules for a Happy Marriage

By Steve Arterburn
New Life Ministries

Never bring up mistakes of the past.

Stop criticizing others or it will come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven (Luke 6:37).

Neglect the whole world rather than each other.

And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process? (Mark 8:36)

Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

And don't sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry (Ephesians 4:26).

At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse.

Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit (Proverbs 15:4).

Never meet without an affectionate welcome.

Kiss me again and again, your love is sweeter than wine (Song of Solomon 1:2).

"For richer or poorer" - rejoice in every moment that God has given you together.

A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate (Proverbs 15:17).

If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate.

Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them (Proverbs 3:27).
If they're breathing, your mate will eventually offend you. Learn to forgive.
I am warning you, if another believer sins, rebuke him; then if he repents, forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him (Luke 17:3,4).
Don't use faith, the Bible, or God as a hammer.
God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it (John 3:17).

Let love be your guidepost.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged (1 Cor. 13:4,5).

The Art Of A Good Marriage

Wilferd Arlan Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Art of a Good Marriage in Japanese

良い結婚のアート

Wilferdアーランピーターソン

結婚の幸福は起こるものではない。
良い結婚を作成する必要があります。
結婚ではささいなことは、大きなものがあります。
あまりにも手を保持するために、古いされてことはありません。
これは、"私は"少なくとも1日1回あなたを愛してと言うことを思い出している。
これは怒って寝ることはありません。
それは同時に他のを取っている付与。
求愛は終了しないでください
新婚旅行で、それは年間を通じて継続すべきである。
これは、値と共通の目標の相互感を持っている。
これは、一緒に世界が直面する立っている。
これは、収集家族愛の輪を形成する。
それはお互いに、義務や犠牲的な態度で、物事をしないやっている
喜びの精神がいる。 これは、感謝の言葉を話している
思いやりのある方法で示して感謝。
それはお互いに完璧をお探しではありません。
それは、柔軟性、忍耐を育てている
理解とユーモアのセンス。
これは、容量を許すことを忘れてしまうことです。
それは、それぞれの昔の成長できる環境をお互いに与えている。
それは、美しい良いの一般的な検索です。
これは、どの独立性が等しい関係を確立しています
依存性は相互には義務が相互です。
、それが適切なパートナーされていることは適切なパートナーと結婚されていません。

Art of Marriage in Indonesian

The Art Of A Good Pernikahan

Kebahagiaan dalam pernikahan bukanlah sesuatu yang kebetulan.
Sebuah pernikahan yang baik harus diciptakan.
Dalam pernikahan hal-hal kecil adalah hal-hal besar.
Hal ini tidak pernah terlalu tua untuk berpegangan tangan.
Hal ini mengingat untuk mengatakan "Aku mencintaimu" setidaknya sekali sehari.
Hal itu tidak akan tidur marah.
Hal ini pada waktu mengambil yang lain untuk diberikan;
pacaran tidak harus berakhir
dengan bulan madu, ia harus terus selama bertahun-tahun.
Ini adalah rasa saling memiliki nilai dan tujuan bersama.
Ini adalah berdiri bersama-sama menghadapi dunia.
Hal ini membentuk sebuah lingkaran cinta yang mengumpulkan seluruh keluarga.
Ini adalah melakukan sesuatu untuk satu sama lain, tidak dalam sikap tugas atau berkorban,
tetapi dalam semangat sukacita. Hal ini berbicara kata-kata penghargaan
dan menunjukkan rasa syukur dengan cara berpikir.
Hal ini tidak mencari kesempurnaan dalam satu sama lain.
Hal ini menumbuhkan fleksibilitas, kesabaran,
pemahaman dan rasa humor.
Ini adalah memiliki kapasitas untuk memaafkan dan melupakan.
Ini adalah saling memberikan suasana di mana masing-masing dapat menjadi tua.
Ini merupakan pencarian umum untuk yang baik dan yang indah.
Hal ini membentuk suatu hubungan di mana kemerdekaan sama,
adalah saling ketergantungan dan kewajiban yang timbal balik.
Hal ini tidak hanya menikah mitra yang tepat, ia sedang mitra yang tepat.

Art of Marriage - Select Quotes

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" everyday
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Marriage Advice

Jane Wells

Let your love be stronger than your hate and anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise,
for it is better to bend a little than to break.
Believe the best rather than the worst.
People have a way of living up or down
to your opinion of them.
Remember that true friendship
is the basis for any lasting relationship.
The person you choose to marry
is deserving of the courtesies
and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.
Please hand this down to your children and
your children's children.

Never Marry But For Love

William Penn

Never marry but for love;
but see that thou lovest what is lovely.
He that minds a body and not a soul
has not the better part of that relationship,
and will consequently lack
the noblest comfort of a married life.
Between a man and his wife nothing ought rule but love.
As love ought to bring them together, so it is the best way
to keep them well together.
A husband and wife that love one another
show their children that they should do so too.
Others visibly lose their authority in their families by
their contempt of one another, and teach their children to be
unnatural by their own examples.
Let not enjoyment lessen, but augment, affection;
it being the basest of passions to like
when we have not, what we slight when we possess.
Here it is we ought to search out our pleasure,
where the field is large and full of variety,
and of an enduring nature; sickness,
poverty or disgrace being not able to
shake it because it is not under
the moving influences of worldly contingencies.
Nothing can be more entire and without reserve;
nothing more zealous, affectionate and sincere;
nothing more contented than such a couple,
nor greater temporal felicity
than to be one of them.

Apache Blessing

May the sun bring you new energy by day,
May the moon softly restore you by night,
May the rain wash away your worries
And the breeze blow new strength into your being,
And all the days of your life may you walk
Gently through the world and know its beauty.

Eskimo Love Song

You are my
My feet shall run because of you
My feet shall dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My eyes see because of you
My mind thinks because of you
And I shall love because of you.

Marriage Joins Two People in the Circle of its Love

Edmund O'Neill

Marriage is a commitment to life,
the best that two people can find and bring out in each other.
It offers opportunities for sharing and growth
that no other relationship can equal.
It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.Within the circle of its love,
marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
A wife and a husband are each other's best friend,
confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic.
And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing,
and the love of the other may resemble
the tender caring of a parent or child.Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.
Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher,
commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly,
and passes away more quickly.Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life
is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life,
new experiences, new ways of expressing
a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage,
they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer
than any spoken or written words.
Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people
who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.

Marriage is the Closest Kind of Friendship

Marriage is the closest kind of friendship.
Years of traffic wear away the lines
Between two souls with similar designs,
Ending more in unity than kinship.
Separate actors must play separate parts:
They must alone be riveted by need.
Far beneath that soil a single seed
Roots itself, tenacious in their hearts.
In love there is a trust beyond the word.
Each finds peace in each, as though the light
Needed the tranquility of night,
Deeper than what silence can be heard.

To Be One With Each Other

George Eliot

What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the
silent unspoken memories?

Love

Love is a friendship that has caught fire.
It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad.
It settles for less than perfection,
and makes allowances for human weakness.
Love is content with the present.
It hopes for the future and it doesn't brood over the past.
It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems,
compromises, small disappointments, big victories,
and working toward common goals.
If you have love in your life,
it can make up for a great many things you lack.
If you don't have it, no matter what else there is,
it is not enough, so search for it, ask God for it, and share it!

Marriage is the Union of

Nicholas Gordon

Marriage is the union of
A greater sum than two in love.
Relatives are made by vows,
Relating endless fields and plows.
In bringing families together,
A million lives are changed forever.
Go then in joy, yourselves to please:
Each love shapes many destinies.

Hindu Marriage Poem

You have become mine forever.
Yes, we have become partners.
I have become yours.
Hereafter, I cannot live without you.
Do not live without me.
Let us share the joys.
We are word and meaning, unite.
You are thought and I am sound.
May the nights be honey-sweet for us.
May the mornings be honey-sweet for us.
May the plants be honey-sweet for us.
May the earth be honey-sweet for us.

Blessing for a Marriage

James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite
excitement marriage should bring,
and may life grant you also patience,
tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another -
not so much to fill your emptiness
as to help you to know your fullness.
A mountain needs a valley to be complete;
the valley does not make
the mountain less, but more;
and the valley is more a valley because
it has a mountain towering over it.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another,
and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!"
and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart,
may both of you hope to have
good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is
the awareness of one another's
presence - no more physical than spiritual,
warm and near when you are
side by side, and warm and near when
you are in separate rooms
or even distant cities.
May you have happiness,
and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

From This Day Forward

Marianne Williamson

From this day forward,
You shall not walk alone.
My heart will be your shelter,
And my arms will be your home.

These I Can Promise

I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy pathway
That leads away from change or growing old.
But I can promise all my heart's devotion;
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that's ever true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.
Yes, I'll Marry You.

This Day I Married My Best Friend

This day I married my best friend
...the one I laugh with as we share life's wondrous zest,
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best.
...the one I live for because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
...the one I love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole.

Today I Married My Best Friend
Rachel Elizabeth Cooper

Today I married my best friend,
Our bond complete, it hath no end,
We share one soul, we share one heart,
A perfect time - a perfect start.
With these rings we share together,
Love so close to last forever,
This special day - two special hearts,
Let nothing keep this love apart.

I Promise
Dorothy R. Colgan

I promise to give you the best of myself
and to ask of you no more than you can give.
I promise to respect you as your own person
and to realize that your interests, desires and needs
are no less important than my own.
I promise to share with you my time and my attention
and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship.
I promise to keep myself open to you,
to let you see through the window of my world
into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.
I promise to grow along with you,
to be willing to face changes in order to keep
our relationship alive and exciting.
I promise to love you in good times and bad,
with all I have to give and all I feel inside
in the only way I know how,
completely and forever.